Thanks for the link--I'll read tomorrow, probably, starting to fade fast. Most of what I've read is on LJ of course.

And really--does it matter? In my fifties, I now don't give a damn about whether it's stupidity or male privilege or sexism, but I'm damn tired of a world in which mostly males screw up regularly (my campus is a prime example of this, so I'm coming from that context), and there's no way an outsider can discern any "intent" or know what the motive is or was.

And I say it doesn't matter--it's not up to those who have power to decide how those who hold less power interpret them.

I just wonder why it apparently bugs people that the gender argument is being made!