Please, do go ahead and tell them clearly that their attitude shows a clear lack of reflection, but I just wanted to point out that it works both ways.
There are men out there who feel greatly inadequate because there are currents of thought in society that seem to ascribe to men oft demonised traits. We, as women, and even as mothers, have played just as big a role in making men what they are as other men have. We expect little boys to be tough, not to cry, to get upset when upstaged by a girl. By accusing them of misogyny simply because they are men, we don't always make them rethink about gender, but sometimes we just encourage them in the belief that all women think they are evil, and it is expected of them though not appreciated.
That is why this argument tends to annoy me. It sends the message that men are entirely to blame, which is a point of view I do not ascribe to. I am perfectly fine with the message that men need to rethink about gender roles, I just think it doesn't only extend to men, and get annoyed when I see pseudo-feminist arguments that seem to forget this.
I apologise if I seem either stubborn or plain ignorant, having only briefly broached the topic of gender roles in my studies. These are topics where I try to be open minded, but get irritated when I feel important points are being ignored.
And just to make it clear, I am not trying to criticize the feminist argument as a whole, only certain expressions of it that I have come across and have struck me as destructive.
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Date: 2007-05-26 07:48 am (UTC)There are men out there who feel greatly inadequate because there are currents of thought in society that seem to ascribe to men oft demonised traits. We, as women, and even as mothers, have played just as big a role in making men what they are as other men have. We expect little boys to be tough, not to cry, to get upset when upstaged by a girl. By accusing them of misogyny simply because they are men, we don't always make them rethink about gender, but sometimes we just encourage them in the belief that all women think they are evil, and it is expected of them though not appreciated.
That is why this argument tends to annoy me. It sends the message that men are entirely to blame, which is a point of view I do not ascribe to.
I am perfectly fine with the message that men need to rethink about gender roles, I just think it doesn't only extend to men, and get annoyed when I see pseudo-feminist arguments that seem to forget this.
I apologise if I seem either stubborn or plain ignorant, having only briefly broached the topic of gender roles in my studies. These are topics where I try to be open minded, but get irritated when I feel important points are being ignored.
And just to make it clear, I am not trying to criticize the feminist argument as a whole, only certain expressions of it that I have come across and have struck me as destructive.